Start the Conversation Around Mental Health
Have you noticed a change in someone close to you? Are you concerned about someone you’re close to? Talking to your friend, family member, or partner could save a life and help them get the help they need.
We know you’re concerned about saying the wrong this. Here are some conversation starters to get the ball rolling:
Try one of these opening lines:
- “Maybe it’s me, but I was wondering if you were all right”
- “I’ve noticed you’ve been down lately. What’s going on?”
- “Hey, we haven’t talked in a while. How are you?”
- “Seems like you haven’t been yourself lately. What’s up?”
- “Whenever you’re ready to talk, I’m ready to listen.”
During the conversation - No need to be an expert, just be a friend. These tips should make starting the conversation about mental health a lot less awkward:
- Listen up. Let them take the lead.
- Promote hope.
- Don’t make promises that you can’t keep.
- Keep it casual. Relax: think of it as a chill chat, not a therapy session.
- Avoid offering advice or trying to fix their problems.
- Let them know it’s OK to feel the way they do.
- Make yourself available. Be the friend they can rely on.
- Ask open-ended questions. Help them to talk, not just say “yes” or “no”.
- Let them open up at their own speed.
- Don’t demand answers or force them to say anything they’re not ready to.
- Tell them you won’t ever judge them.
- Let them know that this won’t change how you feel about them.
- Ask them if they’ve seen a doctor. Encourage them to talk to an expert. Contact Counseling and Psychological Services at 909-869-3220, or call the Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).